Ever feel like when you need someone the most – they crap out on you? That has been my experience so many times that I think I decided (although I don’t think it was a conscious decision) way back when – the only person I can rely on is myself…and you know what??? Even I crap out on me too!! Double whammy.
I read an article about a woman who describes herself as a “deep feeler” – I know what she means because I am that way too. Deep feelers need to get with people who can and will be there when the storms of life come – and they will not get scared and run away. We need people who will stay, and have the ability to listen, and show compassion. For most people – the feelings you have are the same exact feelings they avoid in themselves – so the tendency is for others to want to flee, because you are bringing up something they don’t want to look at / think about / deal with / or experience.
So what to do? One good thing-find a therapist/counselor/Pastor – they get paid to listen and to heal. Find your tribe – those people who really get you – and more importantly, will not put you down or embarrass you for having feelings.
By the way, feelings are never wrong. And your feelings are not negotiable. But they are completely YOURS. You are responsible for everything you feel. Which means when you have a particular feeling – you can’t put the blame on someone else. You gave that feeling to yourself!
Disappointment is a very hard feeling for me to have. It makes me feel sad and it makes me feel alone. I want to know I have someone who is solid – someone who will stick with me – support me – especially when I’m going through something challenging.